Before I jump into methods on boosting self-confidence, I want to emphasize what it is not! Self confidence is not arrogance, it is not judgmental, and it is certainty not self-deception. At the root of it, self-confidence is all about acknowledging and accepting our own worthiness and capabilities in spite of our past failures. With this in mind, here’s 3 ways any one can build on their self-confidence.
- ALWAYS THINK WITH A CAN-DO ATTITUDE.
When you go into a grocery store with a set budget, there isn’t much wiggle room to expand on what you can and cannot buy solely with positive thinking. But when you are tasked with a more performance-based activity, the results can be quite different if you don’t think you can do the task. Take a sales job for instance, if you are going to work everyday wondering if you have what it takes to grow clientele, then you are already setting yourself up for failure. You should always think “I can do this. Let me figure out how!”
- NETWORK WITH OTHER PEOPLE WHO BREED SELF-CONFIDENCE.
How can you be a positive thinking person when the people around you habitually complain or dictate orders? It’s absolutely possible to be self-confident, but you will be challenged more. We have little choice in the office-setting on who we interact with. Our co-workers are our co-workers. But don’t choose someone who is a complainer to be your accountability partner or someone to look up to. Look to ways where you can network within your profession with people who enjoy what they do and are happy to share their habits and knowledge.
- LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURES, AND MOVE ON.
Nobody is out there judging you constantly, watching your every move and interpreting you as a bad person. If you actually know someone like this, get them out of your life! If you can’t, learn to mentally and emotionally distance yourself from them! If you made a mistake at work or in your family life, correct the behavior that caused the error and move on from the event! By dwelling on the event, you are subconsciously lowering your self-worth and self-confidence. If you find that you have a habit of self-pity, learn to break that habit fast because self-pity is the enemy of self-confidence! Always maintain that ‘CAN-DO’ attitude, and when you fail, get back up and keep trying!
One of the most challenges times of my life was the last two years of obtaining my Bachelor’s degree. I was taking more advanced classes in my major and I struggled because I wanted to maintain my social life while passing classes. It wasn’t easy. Whenever I would get myself to sit down and start chugging out those engineering problems, I admit I would get frustrated. What pushed me through was a combination of having the end in mind, that is, visualizing myself with a degree, as well as habitually thinking ‘I can do this and I will do this, right now’.
I hope you enjoyed this short article on building self-confidence. Thanks for reading!